Why were you born? What is your purpose? Why are you here? Why am I here?
It’s a much debated topic. Every self-help speaker and new age guru seems to have an opinion on the matter. But what does God say?
We know from scripture that we were each uniquely created. The Word says that not only did God knit you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-14) but that He knew you BEFORE then. It says that He knows the number of hairs on your head (Luke 12:7; Matthew 10:30). So we know that none of us, regardless of the circumstances of our birth, were MISTAKES. He KNOWS you. Your birth was NOT a surprise. But WHY did He create you?
The older I get, the more life experience I have, the more that question rings in my ears. Was I created to be the mother of my child? Maybe. But surely God could have given her to a better, more qualified Mama. Was I created to be the wife, the support, and the helpmate to my husband? Possibly, but I daresay the Lord could have found him a more patient, more forgiving, better looking wife (*cough* easily). Maybe even one that LIKES to cook and clean!
SO, WHY AM I HERE?
They say hindsight is 20/20. It’s easy to look at people like the apostles and prophets, or from our day, big evangelists and popular teachers like Billy Graham, Joyce Meyer, Reinhard Bonnke, or others who have had an immeasurable impact for the kingdom of heaven and tell why THEY are here. It’s sometimes a little more difficult to gain that kind of perspective on your own life.
But I’m just a housewife.
I’m just a daughter.
I’m just a neighbor.
I’m just a Mama.
I’m just a random, middle aged woman.
I’m just a grandmother.
I’m just doing the best I can to get along in my life.
The Word tells us that we were created for RELATIONSHIP.
Genesis 2:18 says that it was not good for man to be alone. Chapter 1 talks about how we were created for relationship with God, and chapter 2 talks about how we were created for relationship with each other. Adam and Eve walked with God in the cool of the day. They had relationship with Him and with each other. We can only surmise that they did what friends do, they talked, they laughed, they shared stories and insight and asked advice – they fellowshipped.
Humans long to be KNOWN. But here is the kicker, we were created in the image of God. God longs to be known too!!
Think about that. The CREATOR of the UNIVERSE, the One that SPOKE the stars and our world into existence, LONGS to be KNOWN by YOU. He wants an intimate relationship with YOU. He already knows you, he CREATED you. But he wants YOU to know HIM. He wants you to spend time fellowshipping with Him and getting to know His character.
That fact should also lead us to this truth: There is a REASON we yearn to be KNOWN – we were CREATED that way!
Have you heard that Dolly Parton / Kenny Rogers song “You Can’t Make Old Friends?” It’s so true. Old friends are often the personification of AGAPE love. Agape love is the unconditional, no-strings-attached kind of love. The kind that appreciates the differences and loves in spite of them. It’s the kind that loves you even if you show up at their house in your pajamas and house shoes with unbrushed hair. It’s the kind of love that is the same whether you are beautiful and dressed to impress with a big fat bank account, or you are dirty and sweaty from working in the yard and can’t afford gas for the mower this week. It’s the kind of love that gives you grace when you have a short fuse, because they know all the mess you have been dealing with. It’s the kind that runs up to embrace you, even when you look like something somebody would be embarrassed to take to a worm wrestle.
It’s. Just. Love.
Old friends are valuable because you have invested in them, and they have invested in you. They KNOW you. You KNOW them. Old friends are the ones that cheer the loudest for your victories and mourn the deepest for your defeats. They laugh with you and they cry with you. Why? Because they have HISTORY with you and they know how far you have come and how hard you have worked. They were there when you were praying and agonizing over decisions and circumstances. They were there when things were going great. And they were also there when you felt like you had your feet knocked out from under you, and you got kicked in the teeth while you were down. They KNOW you. I am a firm believer that God brings us different people in different seasons of our lives. All are important and hold great history, love, and value.
Old friends became old friends because they saw our flaws – they knew how messed up and broken we were – and they made the decision to love us anyway. When you show your flaws to others, they often feel more comfortable showing you their brokenness, cracks, wounds and scars. It’s mutual vulnerability that brings us together. True friends will help you to understand, heal and overcome your wounds, gashes and scars. And they don’t mind if you bleed on them a little in the process.
New friends are sweet and wonderful — and those relationships certainly need to be cultivated. (After all, old friends were once new friends!) But there is NOTHING quite like the kind embrace of an old friend. (And I am a firm believer, the older the friend, the sweeter the embrace!)
Our relationship with God is like that. He ALREADY knows our vulnerabilities, but he wants us to give them to Him. He longs for us to know Him, and to know His true character. He wants us to experience his LOVE and His forgiveness and His grace. He wants to lift us up into a deep connection with Him.
YOU are here… I am here… WE ARE ALL HERE…for RELATIONSHIP. We are here to glorify God and have relationship with Him. We are also here to have relationship with man. PEOPLE are important. We are here to lift people and encourage them and point them toward their Creator, who loves them with TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, like no man could give.
Give somebody the gift of being KNOWN. Learn your God and KNOW Him. You may never understand, this side of eternity, what a difference you have made and the ripple effect of your life. But rest assured, HE knows, and he created you to fulfill that need!